Contending with Loss?

[JM]

Someone I care about very much has been burdened with several large losses recently.

I feel that I am failing to provide the level of support required & that I should consider some form of professional assistance.

I'm not comfortable with the concept & don't know where to begin looking. Is a "Bereavement Counselor" the correct terminology?

Thank you.

[magman]

Yes. Not sure the situation, but most Hospices provide that service.

[pete]

You could possibly call your family doctor for a reference, or try your county mental health department for references. Best of luck, it's a tough feeling watching someone you care about hurting and feeling helpless to be a comfort to them

[potatojudge]

Pastors often can get the process started and have professional references. Our bereavement services are all overseen by the hospital chaplain.

[bula]

I have no better advice than already given. I commend on your level of care, and the thought to look for better help. I will say, hugs help more than you might think. My wife taught me and my family the value of hugs. We were a hugless bunch until I drafted her into the family. 

[45MAN]

PEOPLE APPRECIATE SOMEONE JUST CARING ENOUGH TO COME BY AND VISIT, CALL, EMAIL, WHATEVER. IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO BE A BEREAVEMENT COUNSELOR, YOUR JOB IS TO BE A FRIEND THAT CARES. WHAT TO SAY? BESIDES CONDOLENCES, JUST SHOOT THE SHIT, TALK, NOT SURE THE SUBJECT IS THAT IMPORTANT, JUST TALK. ANYWAY THAT IS WHAT I TRY TO DO.

[rangersedge]

All of the above is good guidance.

[bearskinner]

Like Rey said above. Be a great friend. Visit, tell jokes, create a meal, play with guns, do normal things friends do. Sometimes that little bit of joy is exactly what’s needed.

[500fksjr]

Just being present and listening can be of very great value!!!