paulg
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Post by paulg on Jan 3, 2016 6:58:39 GMT -5
Anybody else here raising a grandchild or children? My grandson is 6 and his mother has another one on the way. Guess she hasn't figured out what causes it. Now his mother is around, which makes this even more frustrating. My wife and I are tasked with the parenting while his mother is more like a babysitter when we can't be there. His dad is no where to be seen. I have noticed though that the blessings of being a grandparent raising a child is so much more evident than when I was a parent myself. His mother is one of the current generation of slackers that has no self discipline nor worthy life goals. It's hard to understand because her mother, my wife, is not and did not raise her that way. Anyway, I was just wondering if there were any grandparent/parents here. To me it has been and is a blessing I could never have imagined rather than a burden.
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Post by kings6 on Jan 3, 2016 12:22:07 GMT -5
You nailed that one Paulg! Daughter and 15 month old grandson are living with us while daddy is in Afghanistan. After taking a deep breath over the house being in shambles with toys, miniature socks and binkies everywhere I just pick the little guy up as he runs to me with his arms raised saying poppa and it goes away but the joy. Daughter works 12 hour shifts as an RN so we watch him 3 days a week and it takes two 58 year olds to keep up with him but that is okay. Already dreading, for selfish reasons, when they all get to move to San Diego once daddy comes home. Being able to take him on his first ride on a mule, a tractor and a quad along with seeing his face Christmas morning makes it all worthwhile though.
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Post by Markbo on Jan 3, 2016 22:53:09 GMT -5
Paul, no thank goodness. All our kids are very good people. Responsible and hard working. But no grandkids. Slackers.
We get our kid.fix by babysitting kids of friends or friends grandchildren. I like babies. Toddlers... not so much. Not till they get some language skill.
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Post by kings6 on Jan 3, 2016 23:34:12 GMT -5
My little guy may not say much other than momma or poppa but he communicates REAL well with his poppas nose!? For a guy who can barely breath through a broken up little nose, I can smell a dirty diaper twice as fast as grandma or momma! And yes, I change everyone I smell and then some!
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Post by sheriff on Jan 4, 2016 9:57:03 GMT -5
The wife and I have been helping raise ours since 2011. Ages now range from 7 down to 2 and #5 will be here in about 4wks. Metha even had to return early from the Holiday at Raton last year cause the Grandkids wanted their 'Meme'. Love 'um!
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Post by sixshot on Jan 4, 2016 13:53:40 GMT -5
I remember that Russell, Metha couldn't even enjoy herself worrying about those grandkids being without her there to take care of them. That mothering instinct never goes away & at times can be a painful thing for a grand parent. I think most of us have had to deal with a few experiences from grandkids like dirty diapers, stepping on sharp toys, food all over the floor & table & sometimes it's much more serious & can lead to a lot of heartache. Most times it works itself out but other times you see in the news where grandparents have a life time of agony caused by a broken family. Divorce, booze, drugs & other bad choices can sometimes make it a living hell for a grand parent thats caught in the middle. Hope it doesn't happen to anyone here but it seems to be more & more common with such a high divorce rate in the younger generation. I know a lot of Forum members who have been lucky enough to be married to the same person for many, many years, I tip my hat to all of you. My wife & I just had our 51st anniversary & there's bumps & bruises in the best of them but we get to see some of our grandkids almost everyday & man are they fun! Nothing like those little arms around your neck.
Dick
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Post by ranch23 on Jan 5, 2016 18:37:13 GMT -5
My Grandkids, boy 2 and girl 5, have been watched for 12 weeks by my parents, their great Grandparents, some trouble with a daycare. My daughter has since "retired" to be a full time stay at home Mom. They have considered themselves extremely lucky to have been able to do this. Although Mom says at 80 and Dad at 83 that it was a lot for them to do.
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Post by bulasteve on Jan 7, 2016 11:54:50 GMT -5
With no kids, and so no grandkids..I see too many of my co-workers raising grandkids. Retirements put off because.. I'll step away now since I do not know the details. Luck to you Paul.
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Post by magnumwheelman on Jan 7, 2016 14:57:03 GMT -5
I'm in the same boat... Mrs & I can't have kids, even though we have a family farm to leave to someone... would love to have grandkids... I hear they are much more fun to raise than their parent... got a good buddy... him & his wife are raising their grand son... nothing wrong with their daughter, other than she works full time & has a boy friend who doesn't have any kids... I personally think I'd put my foot down a little, & make her take her kid, at least every other weekend... their grandson is now old enough that he stays by himself... hm... come to think of it, their daughter moved back in, when she & her husband split up... only now she moved in with her boyfriend, & the boy lives with his grandparents
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Post by arokcrwlr on Jan 7, 2016 16:16:34 GMT -5
magnum, you can adopt me. I don't need much parenting...although my wife accuses me of being a child..and will take good care of the farm when you're gone...
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